Why it’s good to shut your mouth

Why it’s good to shut your mouth

Hmmm… I ran across this quote and found it a great reminder for myself, that sometimes more can be taken away from a conversation when I’ve said less.  We’re all guilty of it from time to time, we get into a conversation with a friend or colleague and we yap so much that we don’t actually hear what the other has to say. Or, if we keep our mouths shut, we don’t quiet our minds, causing us to become disengaged.

Actively listening to others is a surefire way to build rapport, show empathy, and increase understanding between individuals.  Being conscious and mindful of each interaction you have with others can help you deepen your relationships, which is well worth it. Focus and engage with the individual you are speaking with. This helps them feel like you care and are interested in what they have to say. After all, what’s the point of faking it and living with one foot in the water. We only live once and life doesn’t give us second chances.

 

 

Motivate yourself with baby steps

Motivate yourself with baby steps

Sometimes when we’re in a rut, it’s easy to feel defeated and it may feel nearly impossible to motivate yourself to do something. I know I’ve been there before, sitting on the couch thinking it felt like work to even stand up. I knew I couldn’t sit there forever and that I had to get started on something eventually. I would recall my mother telling me “Energy begets energy”, and once I began moving I always realized she was right!
If you’re struggling to get motivated, try the following:

1.) Be positive.
Look at the bright side of things! Is the sun shining? AWESOME!  Do you have someone who loves you? Even better!  There are always good things around us, sometimes it just takes a moment to identify a few. 

2.) Have fun
If you have a task that seems mundane, find a way to make it fun. Can you write that report in the beauty and peace of the outdoors? WONDERFUL! Would some upbeat music make taking down the wallpaper more enjoyable? ABSOLUTELY, so put it on. Dance if you have to. Be silly, be free, enjoy yourself!

2.) Get moving.
Stand up. Go for a walk. If you can put one foot in from of the other, you’ve accomplished this already! Once you’re out the door you’ll find that you already feel better, and you’ll probably make it all the way around the block. 

4.) Appreciate yourself
Remember to give yourself a pat on the back for what you accomplished. If it was challenging for you to get started, recognize that you did it and how great you feel that it’s done.

GOOD LUCK!

Why you need to use the lifesaving airplane mask first

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There is actually a very important reason that the live saving mask on an airplane should be affixed to the adult before the child, and it has nothing to do with being selfish. It’s because in order to care for another human being, you must first be able to care for yourself.  We cannot take care of others if we do not take care of ourselves first. True, many of us know this, but we still end up neglecting ourselves, or even feel selfish when we actually do something to care for ourselves.

Invest in yourself each day and you will find that you

1.) Become more productive in your life and work.

Nobody can accomplish things and stay fully focused when they’re overloaded and frazzled.  Your work or chores can wait a few minutes while you take the time to relax or do something nice for yourself.

2.) Feel happier and smile more.

Tending to your own needs will not only make you feel good, but will also make others happy.  You’re friends and family will love the calmer and less stressed YOU! It’s much more pleasant to be around someone who is positive and full of joy than someone who’s got the weight of the world on their shoulders.  Plus, you may even inspire them to invest in themselves, too.

3.) A better partner in your relationship.

By taking care of your own needs, you will fulfill yourself and anyone who loves you will most definitely want that for you! Trust me, your partner would prefer to miss you for the evening and spend time with a refreshed and relaxed individual the next night. Also, when you you make time to care for yourself you allow your partner to take the time for them, too.

If you’re reading this and you feel that you may be neglecting yourself, TAKE THIS AS A SIGN that it is time to do something to care for you! YOU ARE WORTH IT!

It is inspiring to know how people invest in themselves, and I’d love to hear ways that you invest in YOU each day!

TRANSITIONS

With the recent publication of my new website, I found it most fitting that my very first blog entry would discuss taking that first step and progressing towards something new.  Transitions can be exciting, but they can also be scary.  Many times it is easy to avoid embarking on a new adventure or striving for a new goal because we are uncertain about how things might turn out.

Here are some guidelines to consider if you find yourself wanting to make a change but it’s been tough for you to take that first step.

1.) Don’t let fears be your guide.

Sometimes we fixate on the reasons we shouldn’t move forward, that we forget the many reasons we should. Whether you are concerned that you might fail, or you find the uncertainty of trying something new unnerving, try not to get caught up in negative thinking.

If you’re fearing failure, don’t forget that it’s also highly likely that you will succeed!  Actually picture yourself achieving whatever you set out to do.   If you still find yourself letting thoughts of failure pop into your head, remember that failure isn’t necessarily a terrible thing, anyhow.  Failing at something helps to build character and can keep you humble.  Furthermore, people often learn from their failures and use them to make more informed decisions in their future.

If you’re fearing the uncertainty, recall that nothing in life is really for sure. Uncertainty can be a GREAT thing, too!  Imagine how boring things would be if we actually knew everything that was going to happen in life. The unknown that lies ahead may actually be full of wonderful possibilities, after all, there’s a reason you are feeling you want to make a change from your present circumstances.

2.) Have a support system.

It’s perfectly okay to ask for help and seek the support of people who care about you.  Family and friends can offer a listening ear, and a life coach can also be a sounding board. Life coaches can help you identify what types of things may be holding you back from making the change you want, as well as offer guidance in excelling forward.  Not only that, but a life coach can offer an unbiased view of your circumstances. Professional life coaches are trained in helping others achieve success.

3.) Focus on your past achievements.

If you’re nervous about moving forward because of the unknown, recall times from your past where you experienced uncertainty but you forged ahead.  Identify what valuable lessons you learned and what you accomplished by moving forward in those times.  Reflecting on how you succeeded in your past can help you gain confidence to get through the present transition period in your life.

4.) Remember that change is normal.

Life is dynamic and ever-changing, which is part of what makes it so wonderful. Everyone who has ever made a change has most likely experienced the same feelings you currently are.  Embrace this idea the best you can, and accept that it’s perfectly okay to feel nervous or uncomfortable during times of change.

5.) Take care of yourself.

Since transitions can be both exciting and stressful, don’t let that pull you away from your healthy routines.  Do something for yourself each and every day, whether it be taking a walk, reading a book, or visiting with a friend.  Making sure that you’re consistently taking care of yourself helps to lower your stress levels during times of change and transition.